Secrets of the Mack - Just Talking
I'm getting more confidence and approaching girls I don't know and saying "hi", but am still having problems starting a conversation and sometimes holding a conversation. Many times, we talk, but it seems awkward, like I am constantly trying to think of things to say. My biggest fear is that I say something to look sleazy and let her know that I want to bone her. What can I say so it doesn't look like I'm saying, "I wanna jump you" with every breath? How do I be funny? When I'm with the guys or with my female friends, the conversations flow naturally. When I'm with a girl I like, I'm Forrest Gump. Any tips? – Forrest Hump
Don't worry about her thinking you want to get in her pants. Trust me, she already knows. The only thing you have to worry about is not being a clone of the 10 other guys that just tried to get her number and got shot down. Being different will get you noticed.
Conversations largely depend on where you are, for instance, you'd talk about different things if you were at a club vs. at a grocery store. At a club, you could say, "Wow, you're a great dancer, where did you learn to dance like that? Were you a cheerleader? Stripper?" At the grocery store, point to her cart and ask, "What is that and how would you cook it?"
You don't need to necessarily be funny. Every guy tries to be funny nowadays, probably because women always say they look for a "sense of humor." But if you're not a naturally funny guy, don't feel the need to go out of your way to tell jokes, or you might look like you're trying too hard.
I find the easiest way is to just talk about them. Ask them questions, not yes or no questions, but questions that make them really tell you about themselves. Ask them what their dream job or vacation is, and make them describe it while you press them on their happy thoughts. Ask about her happiest memories, or what she loves doing, and play to her ego a little bit, i.e. "I can tell you'd be great at that!" After you're done, she'll remember you as this magical guy who she just clicks with, has the greatest conversations, and makes her feel good.
Also, women find a lot more things interesting than guys do. If you were to say to a guy, "I'm redecorating my house, new furniture, paint, and everything," the guy would probably say, "cool" and move on. A woman on the other hand, will want to discuss colors, furniture, drapes, etc. leading into a long conversation, with her doing most of the talking. This'll work with a lot of topics...except for maybe sports.
If you have a hard time talking about each other, you can talk about other people, like that guy who's dancing all weird. This gives it the team-type of mentality; kind of like the two of you are on the same team and not playing each other.
As it progresses, you'll start finding common interests to talk about