Secrets of the Mack
The First Call
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Your advice on how to get the girl’s phone number has helped me out. I’m pretty good at getting numbers now, but there are some unknown situations that pop up when I call. First, what do you do when you call and she doesn’t pick up? Do you leave a message, and what do you say? Next, I’ve run into the situation where her sister or her roommate answers the phone, and asks who it is. Do I leave a message with them? Last question, when I do get her on the phone, I try to set up a date, and start off with, “So are you free next Saturday?” and like 100% of the time, she is busy. How do you go about making the date? – Dialtone
Don’t leave a message if you can get away with it. Back in the day, it was ok to not leave a message, because you could call as many times as you needed to until you got someone on the phone. The reason was: every time you leave a message, the ball’s in her court whether to respond or not. And unless you were a seriously charming bastard when you first met her, chances are, she won’t call back.
These days however, most people have Caller ID on their cell phones and home, and calling every hour makes you look like a stalker. I know you can just hit *69 or whatever to hide your identity, but I think that makes you look even MORE like a stalker. Or a telemarketer. Instead, call once, and if no one picks up, don’t leave a message. Who knows, maybe she’ll call you back. If not, just call back later (maybe the next day) and this time leave a message.
As for what message you should leave, there are many, many options that could fill a book. I personally like, “Hey, this is R.K. We met at the club last weekend. I’m heading out to Joe Bob’s Art Gallery showing tomorrow night. Should be fun, we should meet up! You got my number on your cell now, so let me know!” It puts you in the position of power, i.e. you already know what you’re doing, and you’re going to do it anyway; you could care less whether she shows up or not. The ending is important, because it gives her instructions to call back, without saying anything weak, like, “when you get a chance” or “if you have time.”
With the sister or roommate, it’s basically the same thing. Just say, “No message, I’ll just try back later.” And if you run into a situation where she NEVER answers and her roommate always tells you she’s not there, just leave your name and number.
The general rule of thumb is: never leave another message until she’s responded to your first one. Nothing says “needy” more than leaving multiple messages for a girl with her never calling you back. There may be some situations where you’ll need to leave more than one message (like if you know she’s going to be out of town or something), but you really want to avoid it as much as you can.
“Are you free next Saturday?” is also something you should avoid. With this question, you’re giving her all the power, a reason to say “no” before you even ask her the real question. Most girls will say that they’re doing something even when they’re not, because they want to look like they’re popular and desired, but mainly because they want to give themselves a way out, just in case what you suggest is lame. Instead, suggest a date and a time for whatever you want to do. Make sure you suggest an activity; don’t just say you want to do “something” together. If it’s ambiguous like that, that means there are no “solid” plans, and you have to ask her out AGAIN when you decide what to do. What’s the point?
Another Way to get her Cell Number
Here is an addition to your list of ways on getting a cell phone number at a club. This really happened. I was talking with this girl, and as I was leaving, I dropped my phone somewhere in the couch. Trying not to panic, I turned to the girl and asked her to call my number so I could hear it. She did, and I found my phone, picked it up, and answered it with “Hey baby” getting a laugh out of her. Now she had my number and I had hers. Called her the next day and made a date. Now, I plan on losing my phone every time I meet someone I like! ;) It may not be upfront, but it’s a hundred times better than begging for her number like most guys do.
– Lost & Found
Excellent technique! I going to plan on losing my phone too! I’m losing it all the time anyway...Happy hunting!
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