Secrets of the Mack
Transition to the Numbers
Thanks in part to your advice, I have been much better at meeting women out at the clubs and bars. One thing I am still having trouble with is wrapping up and getting her phone number. When the time comes, I can’t really think of a good segue into asking for her number. Many times I end up ending the conversation and walking away empty handed. The problem is that when we’re talking, I feel like I’m having fun with another person, and when I try to bring up getting the number, I feel like I’m a typical guy trying to pick up a chick, and I get the impression that she knows it. What is a good technique for comfortably bringing up getting a number? – No Digits
For myself, I don’t like to be in the position where there’s a set time to get her number, like for example, waiting until the end of the conversation when everyone is getting ready to leave. It works much better for me if I get the number in mid-conversation in a very casual manner. For example, we’ll be talking about cell phones, etc., and right in the middle, I’ll open up my cell phone and say, “Hey give me your number, because I know I’ll forget to get it from you later.” This kind of approach makes it seem less like you’re “the pathetic guy who’s begging for the pretty girl’s phone number,” but more like the guy she’s going to hang out with later anyway, who she needs to give a way to contact her. Then just continue with your conversation right where you left off, so that there’s no lull.
This approach requires the right timing though. You have to get the number at a point where you’re deep into conversation, and she’s very interested and really digging you. It won’t work at a point where there’s a lull (you should never let this happen anyway). Also, you can’t bring it up at the beginning, when you’ve just met her and she isn’t all that interested yet, because unless you’re Brad Pitt, you’ll probably encounter resistance.
You can’t just see a girl, walk up to her andsay, “Hey, my name is John, give me your number so I don’t forget to get it later!” Well, maybe you can...if any of you guys try this, email me and let me know how it goes.
Sometimes you can’t help but to go for the number at the end, because one of you suddenly has to leave. Now you’re in the position where you either get her number or never see her again. In this situation, simply be honest and say, “You’re a lot of fun, we should really do this again some time.” At this point, she’ll most likely offer you her number. If not, you can say, “Give me your cell phone number, and I’ll call it right now, and you’ll have mine,” which makes it seem like you’re just interested in giving your number to her in a fancy way. Again, you’re letting her know you’re not like every other guy out there begging for her number.
Happy hunting!
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